I am no “stan”. I stan for no one BUT there are a few people that make me wish I had a moment at their table, a chat over brunch or a much needed “you are ok” embrace. At the top of this list is Mother Oprah. And then there is my forever First Lady Michelle Obama. Shonda Rhimes aka the storyteller that is me had I not been afraid. Deeply missed Maya Angelou and my favorite author Octavia Butler. Imaginary yet real Claire Huxtable and then there is…
From the very first time, I listened to her podcast (the podcast that introduced me to the world of podcasting) to watching Curlbox grow into the beauty and power that it is today, Myleik speaks to my soul. You know like the sister friend that you can tell your deepest secret to, cry with and get the words you need not the words you want from. That’s how Myleik does me. I took 12 journal pages of notes y’all. Here are some of my takeaways…
Life Lessons from My Taught You Live
We Are All Born Whole
We are all born whole. Over time life punches holes in us. It is our life work to fill in those holes.
The Takeaway: This is the very first thing I wrote down. I could cry thinking about all the holes life has punched in me. I could cry at how I have not done the work to fill in some of those holes. Sure a good cry is always needed but we have to do the work to fill the holes in us. My made a point to say she focused on work to fill her holes. What will you do to fill the holes in you?
Keep Moving Forward, Period!
You are not the things that have happened in your life.
“There are two kinds of people. One kind, you can just tell by looking at them at what point they congealed into their final selves. It might be a very nice self, but you know you can expect no more surprises from it. Whereas, the other kind keep moving, changing… They are fluid. They keep moving forward and making new trysts with life, and the motion of it keeps them young. In my opinion, they are the only people who are still alive. You must be constantly on your guard against congealing.” – Gail Godwin
The Takeaway: Don’t define yourself by those moments. Define yourself by who you say you want to be and do the work to get there. Keep moving forward.
Visualize & Manifest
Write yourself a check. Visualize yourself cashing that check. Write the checks and then do what you need to do to be able to cash them.
The Takeaway: Look, I don’t own checks right now but I am putting in an order for some. This is a serious action item in manifestation.
What are some things you are telling yourself that are keeping you in your personal prison?
The Takeaway: I didn’t write my own takeaway from this one because a quote My shared from Mother Oprah says it best…
“Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life because you become what you believe.”
On Lost Friendships
Some people are chapters, some people are pages. Be ok with that.
On Lessons Learned From Struggle
Be creative when you’re broke. Stop wasting money. Wear the same clothes. You are more than the newest outfit for the next Instagram flick.
Sidebar: I stayed behind to take a picture with My. As I walk on to the stage, My reaches out her arm and says “I love your dress”. Listen, I was ready for my brunch moment with My right then. You see my dress is a thrifted number I scored at the Brooklyn Flea probably 10 years ago. It is my favorite dress in my closet. When I got married at the courthouse (by choice) this is the dress I wore because I love it and I wanted some color on that day. LOL. So yes, I may have sealed my “stan” status with My at this moment. It was a frugal find during a time that funds were low despite my high paying job. Now to manifest that brunch.
On Being Realistic
An audience member asked a question about being realistic in (business) goals but the first part of My’s answer is definitely a life lesson moment. And this answer from Myleik is the ultimate takeaway…
“There is no such thing as being realistic. It’s as much as you want it to be”.
My, shared a poem called Promise Yourself by Christian D. Larson. I’ve already made it into a pretty little printable because it’s the perfect daily reminder. And with that, these life lessons from My Taught You Live are just what I needed and I hope they speak to you too. It’s official, I STAN for My!