It’s our anniversary. Today marks 2 years the hubs and I have been married. It’s funny to say two years since we have been together much longer. We actual recognize the day we met as our anniversary because it was love at first sight. Kind of. LOL. But today is our official anniversary as far as marriage goes. We have many more years to come and to get this thing called marriage right. I’ve learned a few lessons along the way…
Say what you want, like and or dislike. I love fresh flowers and plants. Before we got married, the Mr. always bought me flowers. Post marriage it has happens but not as often so I made mention of it.
Kids Change Things
Sure I knew this but I didn’t really know until we were full swing in parenting mode. As I’ve mentioned before, our kids are a miracle granted to me from God. However, I need to work on my relationship with my husband outside of the kids. Being a SAHM doesn’t make it easy but for this new year in our marriage, I am committing to getting back to us.
Marriage is Work
A lot of work! Sometimes I just want to run away but what good would that do. We both have to work on being better communicators, listeners and teammates. We are a team. I’m working on my mindset and my response. Regardless of what the situation is, I am committing to do what my authentic self would do instead of what my upset self will do.
Married couples need time together and time apart. We need dates. He needs fellas time and I need girl time. We also both need alone time. I try to get the kids out of the house on days the hubs is off so that he can decompress from a hectic week. With the baby, alone time for me is slim to none but the Hubs and I have to figure out how to make it work because I need a little space. I feel like dates and me time will make our relationship stronger and bring back the fun.
Another area we both need to work at. No point in stonewalling one another. I try and then I pull back when I am not getting a response. This can’t work so I need to change my mindset.
With all of those lessons, here is one thing I know for sure…
I LOVE ME SOME HIM
and I am praying for our strength as a couple, as parents and as friends.
What tips do you have for me on how to make our marriage blossom and keep the flame going? I’m all ears. Also, check back in as I am participating in Blog Her’s NaBloPoMo with my Fab Five crew. Join us on this journey to blog every day for 30 days.
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