It’s our anniversary. Today marks 2 years the hubs and I have been married. It’s funny to say two years since we have been together much longer. We actual recognize the day we met as our anniversary because it was love at first sight. Kind of. LOL. But today is our official anniversary as far as marriage goes. We have many more years to come and to get this thing called marriage right. I’ve learned a few lessons along the way…
Be Specific
Say what you want, like and or dislike. I love fresh flowers and plants. Before we got married, the Mr. always bought me flowers. Post marriage it has happens but not as often so I made mention of it.
Kids Change Things
Sure I knew this but I didn’t really know until we were full swing in parenting mode. As I’ve mentioned before, our kids are a miracle granted to me from God. However, I need to work on my relationship with my husband outside of the kids. Being a SAHM doesn’t make it easy but for this new year in our marriage, I am committing to getting back to us.
Marriage is Work
A lot of work! Sometimes I just want to run away but what good would that do. We both have to work on being better communicators, listeners and teammates. We are a team. I’m working on my mindset and my response. Regardless of what the situation is, I am committing to do what my authentic self would do instead of what my upset self will do.
Make Time
Married couples need time together and time apart. We need dates. He needs fellas time and I need girl time. We also both need alone time. I try to get the kids out of the house on days the hubs is off so that he can decompress from a hectic week. With the baby, alone time for me is slim to none but the Hubs and I have to figure out how to make it work because I need a little space. I feel like dates and me time will make our relationship stronger and bring back the fun.
Be Flexible
Another area we both need to work at. No point in stonewalling one another. I try and then I pull back when I am not getting a response. This can’t work so I need to change my mindset.
With all of those lessons, here is one thing I know for sure…
I LOVE ME SOME HIM
and I am praying for our strength as a couple, as parents and as friends.
What tips do you have for me on how to make our marriage blossom and keep the flame going? I’m all ears. Also, check back in as I am participating in Blog Her’s NaBloPoMo with my Fab Five crew. Join us on this journey to blog every day for 30 days.
LaShawn |Everyday Eyecandy|
Mimi |Unlikely Martha|
Bernetta |Bernetta Style|
Kita |Kokoa Mag|
12 Comments
LaShawn
November 1, 2015 at 7:16 AMHappy Anniversary!!! My mother always told me that marriage was work, but I didn’t believe her until I got married! My advice is for both of you to keep doing the work!
M J
November 1, 2015 at 8:18 AMThank you LaShawn. Emphasis on “both of you”
Bernetta
November 1, 2015 at 9:10 AMHeyyyy MJ!! Happy Anniversary! 2 is my favorite #, so I am praying this year will rock for you two! What you said about marriage is 100% true. It’s work but worth it! XOXO
M J
November 2, 2015 at 4:14 PMThank you Bernetta. I’m praying on a great year for us as well.
Mimi
November 1, 2015 at 9:18 AMYes to all of this. This being our 10th year and hardest, those shifts in life really do make marriage hard work. It’s so much easier when both are doing the work at the same time, but life.
Happy Anniversary!
M J
November 2, 2015 at 4:13 PMThank you Mimi. I pray your bond with your husband stays strong and continues to grow. 10th year the hardest! WOW. I’m nervous. It’s pretty hard now so I hope by 10 years in we level out.
K. Elizabeth (YUMMommy)
November 1, 2015 at 2:20 PMMarriage is definitely work and both parties have to be committed to putting in the effort. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in my marriage is not let outside issues affect the way I treat my husband. If I’m upset about something blog related or because something fell through, as tempting as it maybe to let that bad attitude and those frustrations flow out in my interactions with my husband, it’s not his fault that any of those things happen. Likewise, he’s learned to get a better read on moods and knows when I need a minute to readjust and get it together.
M J
November 2, 2015 at 4:12 PMThank you K. I definitely agree with that. Outside influences have a way of creeping in to the home. I have definitely become more aware and stop myself if I am misdirecting my frustrations.
Vashti (veepeejay.com)
November 1, 2015 at 5:31 PMHappy Anniversary MJ! You are well on your way. As someone who is 8+ years in, I can co-sign that it is a lot of work, fun, rewarding work once you both put in the effort. CONSTANT Communication also goes a long way as well. Praying for many more blessed years for both of you <3
M J
November 2, 2015 at 4:11 PMAwww thank you Vee. I appreciate you and I appreciate being able to chat with you about married life. You always share great advice.
Melonie
November 2, 2015 at 4:31 AMHappy Happy 2 year Anniversary! 2 down, a lifetime to go ❤! Any time you can get in with the Hubs go for it… sometimes maybe if you can..a weeknight dinner for just the two of you. I’ve been able to do this a few times after we’ve put the kiddies to bed or just while they’ve been occupied.
M J
November 2, 2015 at 4:05 PMThanks Melonie. We will definitely work on taking more time together. We do like to watch a movie or a series on Netflix. Most nights I am knocked out but I plan to do better.